“Maybe I was reaching for authenticity through a funhouse mirror. I didn’t know. I just didn’t want to be who I was. It turns out that’s not a specific enough request.”
— R. Eric Thomas, Here For It (Amazon, Bookshop)
Have you ever gotten to the point in life where you don’t even “look” in the mirror? Sure you might comb your hair, and make sure you don’t have anything stuck in your teeth, but you don’t actually “see” yourself.
Have you ever looked and been so disappointed by the reflection that was looking back that you walked away in disgust?
We grasp and pull at straws of who we want to be, but never take the time to actually figure out what that “want” actually looks like, or what exercises it will take to be molded into it.
It is not a surface thing. Sure I want the lockdown to lift so that I can fix my hair to stroke my ego a bit. Yep, I want the financial freedom to straighten my teeth. Vanity, vanity, vanity.
More importantly I want to sharpen and hone my values, and beliefs. My deepest character traits, my morals. My what makes me, uniquely me.
Is the reflection true to self? Are the actions in alignment with self?
Do you dare look in the mirror? How does your reflection look?
My reflection today looks a lot better than it did 25 – 30 years ago. But back then my evaluation system was skewed. I no longer like what I see physically. But the rest of me, the important parts, are much better.
I hear you. I am in the same mind frame.
I think you are very beautiful inside and out.
Now if we can work together towards health and fitness goals, maybe we can grow in confidence towards our shell as well as our inside.