Putting out fires

Yesterday being boxing day, would have been a great day to rest, relax, and recover from the excitement of Christmas. My body and mind and soul were all telling me I was tired. Did I listen? Well of course not!

I had been aware for quite sometime that there was a mess brewing up in one of my rooms in my home. It was calling for attention before it turned into something HUGE. A tiny fire, that if extinguished immediately literally would have taken fifteen or twenty minutes of my attention and five minutes of my husband’s. But did I nip it in the bud? Did I dowse it right away? NO! NO! NO!

I started the job of fighting this massive ‘fire’ as soon as I returned from driving my daughter to her work. I had every intention to take breaks and listen to my body, pace myself, hold onto my inner peace. Well like the saying goes “the road to hell is paved with good intentions”. Don’t ask me who said it, I have no idea, I have heard it all my life.

The job had become physically demanding, my body running on empty. My happy, determined mood did not take long to start to slip. Worse yet, I did not take a break, I did not rest, and it was not long till that ugly little monster started to grow inside of me again.

Worse yet he started feeding on the“poor me vibe”. After all, EVERYONE else in the house were enjoying their restful day, playing with their new ‘toys’. Could they not see how hard I was working? Could they not at least offer to help? Could they not at least pick up the stuff around themselves?

Oh poor, poor me! Oh how ugly that monster is when it rears it’s ugly head.


I could focus on what my family did not do to help me. I could probably make a good case, and convict them, BUT…

God gave me patience, love, and a strong mind. I did not listen to my inner voice crying out to me to take extra care of body and soul. I stubbornly pushed through till my peace had slipped down and was being trampled on by pain and frustration.

The pain in my body started screaming. My frustration of mind, knowing I, yes “I”, had not extinguished the spark before it became an inferno out of control, had me snapping and growling, like an injured dog!

This was not a part of my original design! This was a learned behaviour, a habit, a crutch! This is my behaviour to change!

It’s time to actually listen to myself, it has A LOT to say!


1.remember fruit, vegetables, meat, water, oh yes and coffee LOL

2.work on schedules, and check lists to maximize productivity, while mindfully observing rest periods for well being and peace.


(FYI I survived day 1 on CANDY’S FACTORY RESET! Slipped a little in dairy, but I am not terribly concerned about dairy anyway. Pushing 50, calcium is good!)

Habit Inventory: THE NEW YEAR COMETH: What works, What doesn’t!

Have you ever considered what you do or how you react to others?

A wise saying is “If you do the same thing over and over, you will get the same result.” or “When you stop hitting your head against the wall, and use the door, the pain will stop!”

How many areas of our lives do we get trapped in the same routine over and over and over, no matter how much we don’t like the results that we are achieving?

What habits or routines just don’t work?

Timers and check lists work for me. I don’t have to do the same thing every single day, but if I decide what I want to accomplish during the day and how much time I need to dedicate to it, then discipline my self to use the timer, I am capable of accomplishing so much. So why don’t I use these tools every day?

My diet and health regime is NOT working for me! Why don’t I sit down for half an hour and make a plan of how to work healthier choices into my day? I am not into the habit of doing this, and I do have a habit of perfectionist thought that leaves me afraid to fail. Need to change this one.

Painting relaxes me. I sleep better after focusing on creating. I do this once a week. So once a week I tend to sleep better. Why can’t I work the habit of creating into my routine a couple more times a week?

My housework habits work amazingly if I incorporate the Fly Lady routine into my day to day life. But I have the habit of loosing my “control journal”. I need the habit of putting it away in the same spot at the end of the day.

Have you stopped and considered your habits lately? I challenge you to make a list, what works, what doesn’t. Then we can look at a plan to get our habits in check!

Are you ready to own your habits? Or are you still too comfortable having your habits own you?


Useful link : http://www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/